Don’t try to turn these body language habits on and off when you think you need them. Keep them on all the time. The more you practice and exercise these skills, the sooner you’ll integrate them into your own personality—and have them forever.
Make sure that you immediately adopt the perspective of a strong leader—the alpha male—when challenged by disagreements, conflicts or confrontations. Then hold on to that mind-set and take action steps every chance you get.
He began taking responsibility and tackling his life problems one at a time: paying off fines and debts, getting his driver’s license reinstated, doing his income taxes—11 years’ worth that he had never filed, but he didn’t owe. Lucky for him he actually got a refund. He was moving up the ladder one rung at a time.
Some of the book is common sense—at least from my feminine perspective—but those who want to be players will want to read it over and over. I objected to much of the tone—for example the author’s classifying sex as a game—but I’m not the audience. As I said, a lot of his techniques are perceptive. So after shaking off my disgust, I found myself saying, “You know, he’s right.”
Leadership is the act or instance of guiding and influencing other people’s willingness to do something. Leadership is when you give other people directives they want to follow because doing so will help them get what they want or need.
You’ll discover that few thrills in life can equal the experience of standing on that brightly lit stage and showcasing your months and years of hard work. A pretty trophy and the roar of the crowd are nice, but they pale in comparison to knowing you did your very best and reached a new pinnacle in your lifelong pursuit of a better physique.
As with most of the things that you do in life, you can always operate at a higher, more accomplished and more proficient level. The higher that level, the greater the rewards you enjoy. Taking your “knowing exactly what you really want mind-set” to the next level is no exception.
I don’t like to consider myself, or most of my fellow bodybuilders, elitist snobs. One stereotype of bodybuilders is that we consider nonbodybuilders lazy, unmotivated and not concerned enough about their appearance. You know what they say: Behind every stereotype is a little bit of truth.
Two workouts without the iron, however, and you’re in big trouble; bloating, drooping and drooling are inevitable. Three and it’s too late—delirium and bed-wetting are not uncommon. Four, you’re tabloid headlines…cute photos. And five, they forget your name; you become a tube-fed number and are assigned a cot in Ward X.