Q: Is there really such a thing as a G-spot? If so, where the heck is it? And can it really make a woman have an orgasm just by stimulating it?
A: Yes, there really are places known as G-spots on the human body that can greatly increase that omigod sex we all crave. There are lots of places on our bodies that can heighten our pleasure intensity when they're sensually stimulated. Many of them are specific to each individual, such as armpits, the back of the knees, feet, etc., but since you're concerned with finding that special spot all women have, let me increase your big-O I.Q. by telling you about the hidden 'happy button.'
If you ever manually manipulated a woman (fingered her) and noticed a certain spot on the 'roof' of the vaginal cavity become firmer, eureka! You found the G-spot. But in case you didn't, here's a quick lesson on pleasure-button treasure hunting. The next time you have intercourse, you and your partner should be in the woman-on-top position. By having her lean forward slightly, your penis should come in direct contact with her G-spot, which is located in the center of the roof of the vagina. Bump and grind the way you normally do (if it brings her nearly to climax, that is) but when you notice (or she tells you) that she's about to orgasm, move your hand to the middle of her pubic hairline and press in with three fingers. Think of this area as her outside G-spot. Now don't just reach up and start punching around. Talk about a total turnoff! Instead, sensually glide your hand to the position it should be and then firmly yet gently apply pressure and massage the area in a circular motion. You may have to press a few centimeters higher or lower to find the exact spot, but when you do find it, don't be surprised if she starts to moan more than usual.
Guess what? It can get even better! Use either the thumb of the hand that you're rubbing the outside G-spot with or your free hand and begin to stimulate her clitoris as well. With this type of triple stimulation you may have to peel her off the ceiling when she comes. Barbara Keesling, Ph.D., author of Discovering Your Sensual Potential, states, 'Women who have had this type of climax say it's the most intensely pleasurable sensation there is.'
Don't get discouraged if you can't find your partner's G-spot lickety-split. Although all women have them, remember that all vaginas are not created equal. But it's nothing that a little one-on-one practice can't help you figure out. IM
Editor's note: Laura Moore is a science writer for IRONMAN and Penthouse magazines and www.ocnow.com. She's the host of the radio show 'The Health Nuts,' which is aired in the southeastern United States. Address your sex-fitness-related questions to her by visiting www.thefitdiva.homestead.com.